Looking into the causes of my stress, I will write down a few land-marks and share them with you, hoping this will reduce some anxiety for you. I try keeping my mind sharp; I hope you will enjoy one of Our Quiz..
I have, as I am sure many people do, stressed for most of my life with all types of causes.
(Most and also the worst were while in the Army)! Thinking you may die young is a great eye opener. Even though I still worry about some things, I have now learned how to handle many of these situations and will write about how I go about doing this.
There is no doubt in my mind “There is a G-d” and is the most like a loving parent I’ve ran into. I stressed a hell-of-a-lot-more before I started to talk more personal with my loving Creator.
I am the kind of person who likes to have a simple and settled life (At 75 I still work a garden in my back yard)
with the help of my wife Mary of course (smile).
When something comes along which is quite a big event or a bit out of the ordinary, this is when I start to read a letter from G-d to see what The Bible has to say about the situation.
Most stress I blame on the devil. It is written “The thief cometh not, but for to steal, kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.” John 10:10-29. And this is what I believe.
I have actually moved one time in the last thirty years because I don’t like moving, clever for someone like me. I am now happy where I live and plan to stay at this abode for a long time.
I was also self-employed many years. There are many things I love about being self-employed, the fact that I am my own boss, I can choose my own hours, I have no-one to answer to or report to and the all round freedom it gives me. (I started a janitorial company once for the same reasons) and was very happy..Mary and I went to work for a real estate company in one of the office building making a lots more money after being the clean-up man. But I wore a suit, even though I didn’t have to! And with the suit came stress!
After 3 years I left and went back to my own Janitorial Service. I liked hireing people other companys would not give a job to. Ex-offenders need work too.
I often stress however that business will go through a bad period and that I do not have the security of a regular income. How will I pay the mortgage? How will I pay my car loan? How will I feed and clothe my children? These are all the things that at times can keep me awake at night. I’ll read the Bible to see what Jesus wanted me to do. (NO MORE STRESS ON THAT!). Ha-Ha..
I now have started to build up a back-up fund in a bank account. When business is doing well, I put as much money as I can into this account, which I can then use in the leaner times. This gives me a peace of mind and therefore I do not have to worry so much. Business will go through good and bad periods and this way I can easily cope when it does go slow. I pay TITHES, so this is my real safety net.
I used to also worry about how I would pay my tax bill at the end of the year, however I have also started to put money away each month similar to the above example, to pay taxes.
I now try and think about all of my worries in a logical manner and instead of losing sleep over them I try to find solutions in the Bible.
I also feel stressed and I am not sure why it is, the day after I have a night out drinking alcohol, Oh yea I’ll still celebrate (smile).
In the morning and nowadays since I am getting older, throughout the day, I often feel lethargic and my mind starts to play tricks on me. It makes me feel negative about the future and makes me worry about a whole host of issues. (politics) It now takes me around forty-eight hours to recover from a boozy night out and affects my family and work. (I’ll only celebrate holidays from now on!) I have now decided that I will go out far less and when I do, I will limit the
amount I drink.
These are other things that can cause me to stress:
When I have worked too hard! When I have had a lack of sleep during and after an illness. After an argument with my wife. (smile)
When I am invited to a social occasion which I do not want to go to, such as a wedding , or funerals. A visit from bad company, say for a weekend , especially people who think and act like we’re still fifty years old (smile).
Going on a holiday
Some of the above may seem a bit bizarre to some people who read this, however I am trying to be truthful. Yes going on holiday does cause me to worry. I do not like flying for a start, (I spent too many years jumping out of Airplanes in The 101st) I worry that I or a member of my family may become ill or that the hotel may not be as good as what was described in the brochure.
I’m sure I’ll buy a RV soon…
One thing which I am now careful to ensure myself of, is that I get enough sleep. I must say I love going to bed and I love sleeping. My bed is where I feel safe and sound. I used to fall into a trap of working too hard and would then stay up late, possibly watching the television. I would set my alarm to wake me up early and I would then start the whole process over again.
I will quit work for good now…
From reading a book about stress management, I discovered that sleep was one of the best forms of stress-relief. I decided to give it a go and I must say it works. I now stay in bed an hour later in the mornings and where possible, I am in bed by 10pm at night.
I am also now attempting to take life in my stride. What happens will happen and I will deal with each challenge on its own merit.
I try to deal with potential problems in a positive way and realise that if life was always smooth and easy, that it would probably be quite boring.
I now appreciate
what I have in life and instead of looking at the future full of dread, I look forward to what life will bring. I know that at times life will be challenging and am determined to get through these periods as quick as I can.
Nowadays when I do feel down and miserable, I tend to spend as much time as possible with my children, as they make me happy and can soon put a smile back onto my face.
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